Ever wonder why some guys are so much better than others at picking up
women? It's not because they're better looking, smarter or have deeper
pockets. However, they probably have two characteristics that work in
their favor: confidence and persistence.
While some men might have these characteristics naturally, you don't need to have been born a
Don Juan in order to be successful at picking u women. You do, however, need to follow a few important guidelines.
Below are seven pickup rules women want men to know, and knowing them
will give you a huge edge on the competition. These dating rules will
not only increase your success rate with women, they will allow you to
sweep them off their feet with your new self-assured, gentlemanly
attitude.
1- Make eye contact before the approach
Want an easy way to gauge if your approach will be successful? Try
making preliminary eye contact from a distance and see how she responds.
If she holds your gaze — or even better, if she smiles — go talk to
her. If she avoids your gaze, on the other hand, your chances are slim.
Also, don't forget to do your "research." Survey the area and you'll
notice which women are looking to meet someone. As obvious as
it may seem, a woman who is looking around at men in the room is
probably going to be more receptive than a woman who is only paying
attention to the friends she came with. Remember this: A woman divulges a
lot in her body language
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so if you want to increase your odds, pay attention. Making and
receiving her eye contact is among the most important pickup rules women
want men to know.
2- Don't express interest in both her & her friends
Hitting on more than one woman in the same social circle is a real deal-breaker. Not only will it make you seem like a player
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but you are forgetting one important factor: In order to successfully
pick up a woman, you have to make her feel special. Hitting on or
expressing interest in her friends will certainly not make her feel
special. So even though you might be attracted to more than one woman in
the group, pick a woman and stick with her. The alternative is that
you'll be going home alone.
3- Make her feel like she's the hottest woman in the world
Often, a woman will go for a man for only one reason: how he makes her
feel. So if you make her feel like the most beautiful girl in the room,
chances are she'll want to see you again. This will work in your favor
in the long run too; if she's confident and comfortable with you, you'll
reap the benefits in
all aspects of the relationship. This rule
does come with one warning clause: Skip it if she appears to have a big
ego already, as you don't need to over-inflate it. The deal on
compliments, pickup lines, knowing when to walk away, and more pickup
rules women want men to know...
4- Don't avoid complimenting her if you think she's heard it all before In other words, don't avoid approaching her in the beginning and complimenting her
later because you think you're not the first to do so. You might think
that it's not worth your while to approach that beautiful girl standing
in the corner. You probably assume that she has had umpteen guys chat
her up before you. But consider this: Most guys think that very same
thing. Often, the prettiest girls get their share of cat-calls on the
street, but they don't get approached much by nice, genuine guys. So
don't be intimidated or assume she's heard it all before. Instead, if
you keep it simple, she just may be grateful for some pleasant, sincere
conversation.
5- Don't use cliche, pre-packaged pickup lines
Never, ever do this. Using a cliche line will do one of two things: It
will either make you look like you're trying too hard or it will make
you seem inexperienced with women (which is even worse). Instead, keep
it simple and just try to be sincere. You'll cut through the formalities
and stand out from all the men who
do use lines on women — and yes, there are many who still do.
6- Approach her in places other than bars and nightclubs
In a bar or a nightclub, a woman is used to being approached by men,
and she'll have her guard up. What this means is that she may reject you
simply because you approached her right after a man who annoyed her, or
because you were last in a long line of men to talk to her.
Furthermore, in nightclubs, as women are expecting to be picked up, they
form a defensive shield against unwanted men. This will obviously work
against you.
If you approach her
in other places, though, you have the element of surprise to your
advantage. In a supermarket or a coffee shop, for example, she won't be
expecting to get picked up and might be pleasantly surprised by your
gesture. Having said all that, do be mindful of approaching a women who is shopping in sweatpants and appears in a rush — she probably won't make the best audience.
7- Know when to walk away
Repeat this to yourself before you go in for a pick up: There is nothing
worse than a clingy guy. Reading her body language is not only
important to gauge when she's interested, but also to determine when to
walk away. For example, is she giving you eye contact or are
her eyes wandering around the room? Does she look bored by the
conversation? If you are giving her your best, most sincere maneuvers,
and she is still not responding, then cut your losses and move on.
What if she is giving you all the good signs? You still shouldn't
overstay your welcome. If you leave the conversation on a high note,
you'll only leave her wanting more.
follow the dating rules
Remember that even the most successful pickup artists get rejected
sometimes. But here's the secret to their success: Despite constant
rejections, they continue to approach women. Call it being thick-skinned
or just plain persistent, but a certain amount of it is required in
this department. So take a lesson and don't let yourself get
down because of the odd rejection. Often, a woman's rejection will have
nothing to do with you at all — she may be in a bad mood, or seeing
someone already, for example. However, if you stick to the rules above,
your odds of success — as well as your collection of phone numbers —
will soar. Happy hunting.
